i feel very senti today..really ..was watchin father of bride(1991) today. cud catch only the last bit but boy it was th ebest thing i saw in days....i love the father...and the kiddo bride, wat an adorable...somehow cant forget the scenes and the whole affair of gettn married and the sentimental journey that begins after that. i was wondering whether my wedding wud also be sumthn like that..
...not that im like those girly girls who fantasise abt their fairy tale weddings...no thats not me...an ideal wedding acc to me wud be get married in a court and give a small( isaid small) party at home and that too if its really necessary...i feel that way cos here in india weddings are suposed to be a massive affair..it is not just thebride and groom who get married but the whole fat family...somehow i dont like that..thats too much of a headache for parents and the money ...whoa ...parents start saving for their daughter's wedding rite frm the day she is born!!! how i hate this mentality..i wana defy it BIG TIME...and good that my mom already knws my intentions...after the weddings of my two elder sis and the money wastage, the last thing i want my parents to do is to spend huge amts on my wedding and get hassled menatlly, physically and financially in their "old" age....sumtime i joke with my mom sayin dat i wont even tell her wen i get married!!!
....but today i really got thinkn abt the both of us u knw...it gettin so deep and i wonder how many years are to pass like this ...wana start livin in soon man!! love ted sooo much!!
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pcssarma
- Saturday, May. 20, 2006 @ 05:53:23
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charmaine_here
- Saturday, May. 20, 2006 @ 11:18:19
ya its true...one wedding is always the building ground for other ppl's future wedding hahaha....but knw wat?? relatives mean tension, headache and problems...i really hate mine and wud love to have my wedding without them...dont understand why they have to be the "witness" to my marriage...dont understand why the "society" has to knw that i, charmaine, it married to mr.. so and so and am now mrs. charmaine...find it obsolete..wat society are we talkn abt and wat witnesses?? does it mean that my marriage wud not be "recognised" if i dont have a bunch of crazy heads who attend the wedding for their own benefits..india n its craziness.....
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- http://prakhya.blog.co.uk
- Monday, May. 22, 2006 @ 05:35:51
I am really sorry to hear the views you havae towards your relatives. I understand that is your very personal view and but I am really sorry if it has hearted you. Marriage is a kind of publicity given to the society that the couple is married and it gives signal to the other male/female in the society to leave them alone. In olden days the relatives were invited as wintess also as the todays technology was not there before. Happy moment like marriage is clebrated by inviting your friends and relatives not only in 'crazy India' but in any other part of the world.
However my best wishes to you to ur future wedding with your darling friend.
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- Saturday, May. 20, 2006 @ 22:38:22
That's a lovely entry. I see so much of myself in those thoughts. Obviously weddings here don't last as long but there is an expectation to have a certain kind of wedding that I kicked out against too. Gav and I were engaged for about five years and only decided to go for it when a friend gave us enough airmiles to get to Vegas. We invited a load of friends and had a wonderful time. I'm sure that when your day comes you'll make sure it's right for you. Is Ted your other half? Lou
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charmaine_here
- Saturday, May. 20, 2006 @ 23:08:40
hey u are really thoughful and thanxx for the lovely comments...yup ted is the guy, thats not his name but i call him teddy bear cos that the way he is: a darling....
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jaketaylor
Pro - Sunday, May. 21, 2006 @ 00:06:36
marriage is what you make of it.... really we have just done it OUR WAY AND IT'S FUN
SO good luck!
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charmaine_here
- Sunday, May. 21, 2006 @ 14:37:15
all the best to both of u...hope u have a joyride!!
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- Monday, May. 22, 2006 @ 09:01:52
hey charmaine, glad that u want a simple court marriage. really the amount of money that one can save can be put to a very good purpose like education of poor children and so on
Sure what you wrote is 100% true. You dont have to perform the marriage lavishly. But the purpose of inviting relatives gives an oppurtunity for the settlement of marriages between prospective groom and bride groom from different families. I think this is the reason behind inviting relatives during ones marriage and the society comes to know of the marriage and also become witness to the marriage.